My Reads: Five Languages of Love

Badly need an elliptical but for now, here is one of my favorite reads. Now that I have some time for leisure books, I might as well finish reading this. For those of you who have not heard about this yet, you can read the synopsis of the 5 Languages of Love below.

The Five Love Languages

Words of Affirmation
Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

Receiving Gifts
Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

Acts of Service
Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

medical supplies

I always say that I have a high tolerance in terms of handling pain. I do not know where and how I got that tolerance skill but even as a child, I was like that already. Fast forward to my hospitalization moments, I have no qualms with the rest of the procedure except when they had to pull out a catheter! Goodness gracious that was really painful. A doctor friend told me that it is not supposed to be that painful, not unless the one who took it out is not as good. Hmmm, I really don’t know but my experience with Catheters is not really something good to think about. So when a friend asked me to check catheters and other medical supplies at Jazz Medical, I had to make sure to her that we get the right one as she really needs one badly .

2010, day one starts now.

I am dying to have a body like this and I could sport some designer two-piece come Summer 2010, think Michael Kors. AS IF! With the eating habits and appetite I have, it will take me more than 10 years or even a lifetime (plus some plastic surgeries lol) to have this kind of body. More than the aesthetic benefits of dieting and exercise, I will focus on a better lifestyle and eating habits, then maybe I could lose weight with that mindset.

Tumblr Rocks!

Before I check on this Minka Aire site, let me share with you another Tumblr find. This gave me the Lolz! Truly, another hilarious Tumblr creation. People at Tumblr are very creative and original. You just have to follow them and be updated with their latest creation. This one I got from JustBeSplendid.Tumblr.com. Definitely, one of my favorite Tumblr sites.

replica watches

In the domain of the U-boat replica brand, there is a particular model that may be considered as the mother to so many other models of the brand. It is known as the U-boat Replica Flightdeck.
The Quality Features

• The U-boat replica Flightdeck is first of all the carbon copy of the original U-Boat Flightdeck brand which was the very first model invented by the famous Italian watch maker known as Italo Fontana in the year 1942.
• The U-boat Replica is currently introduced as better alternative to the expensive nature of the main brand which became the property for the rich people. With a little amount of $280, you are sure of grabbing the model.
• The main peculiarity of the U-boat Replica Flightdeck is the fact of the perfect readability of its dials especially in dark hours. This is because the dials are made with the luminescent features that glow all the time.
• When it comes to proper time keeping, the U-boat Replica Flightdeck comes with powerful chronograph feature and sub additional dials that help it in that regard.
  The U-boat Replica Flightdeck is well decorated with wonderful black leather bracelets. This makes the watch to be very neat in appearance.
• Internal rotor and self winding mechanism are used in the interior sections of the U-boat Replica Flightdeck. This propels the watch to proper functions all the time.
• The U-boat Replica Flightdeck is also known to be water resistant but it is never water proof hence should never be used for ocean diving and other high sea endeavors.

Finally, the U-boat Replica Flightdeck is indeed a dependable watch you can use for your fashion make-up all the time. It is known to be very reliable.

Beach on my mind.

A friend is getting married in July of next year. She was lucky to receive a cancun vacation packages as her Honeymoon gift. I would love to go to Cancun someday but all of these dream travel destinations have to wait. In the meantime, let me settle with the nearby theme park this Winter and the various beaches that we have in the neighborhood.

Mc Do, Mc Do, Mc Donald’s

Ahh, junkfood, I can’t get enough of them and no matter how much my mom would warn me about the after effects of eating err gobbling too much junkfoods, I still eat them like crazy. Yes, my mom can be a nagger at times, I remember how far she went her way to reminding me about future wrinkle treatment if I do not put on my moisturizer regularly. Anyways, going back to junkfood talk, I can’t wait to get a pie from the nearby Mc Donald’s upon seeing this picture at tumblr. Mc Donald’s they just reinventing themselves.

another round

Looks like my folks visit in Spring of next year is not likely to push through as there are some things we and they have to consider. It will happen but on a later date and perhaps, a better and grander vacation . Anyways, if and when this most-awaited visit pushes through, I am sure we will have a grand time. I cherish family vacation. I have a Close-Knit family, even though both of my siblings had international assignments, they make sure to come home to every Christmas and New Year. Our biggest and most memorable vacays included 2 trips in Boracay and a New Year bash in Bangkok, I just love looking at those old photos. On those trips, Stripe was already part of the family. However, for the past 2 years, we haven’t had a decent family vacation. Hence, I am hoping this visit would pushthrough this year. Crossing my fingers .

a keyboard cup.

Interesting cup eh?!
I found this while browsing at random Tumblr accounts and thought of sharing it here before I check on this free directory site.

So anyways, how was your Thanksgiving Weekend and Black Friday Shopping?
Boy was it fun on my part . It was my very first time to camp out at BestBuy and of course, we went home with fantastic deals . Despite the rain, cold weather and a situation with a person who tried to cut the line, it was all worth .

A Toaster or a Gadget?

This is my gadget find for the week. Too bad, I was not able to bookmarked where I got this image, my bad! I do not even know what it is. Can somebody tell me? I have so many things in my hands right now that all I do was save images of great finds online. I was busy researching on this motorhome towing site when I chanced upon this. I think it is a CD player if not an external hard drive, what do you think?